Thursday, March 12, 2009

dear friends

Has it been almost four weeks now since my dear Coop departed this realm? Seems impossible that such a span of time has passed. I am doing ok, all things considered. Just trying to figure out my new version of life, feeling lost and overwhelmed a lot, wondering how I will support myself as well as how I will live without the love and intimacy of another. I am having good spans of time as well in which I feel a sense of optimism. The company of good friends and family members has been the greatest help to me. Friends allow me to talk my way through an evening, listening to all my attempts to define how this feels. They allow me to cry when the sorrow or fear overwhelms, offer hugs and words of wisdom and encouragement as well as giving me the ability to laugh again. I truly do not know how I would have gotten this far without them...without you. I just wanted to let all of you know how very much I appreciate your support and the comfort of your words. Dear friends, nearby or here in cyberspace, you mean the world to me.


  1. I'm so glad you've got your friends and loved ones around you and that you have some somewhat peacful moments.

  2. Good Morning to a Hopeful New Friend. I have just started my blog but have all the empathy in the world for you. Today will be one minute or maybe one hour better than yesterday but never the same as we used to know it. My thoughts hugs and prayers are with you. Soon we will be able to talk of more pleasant things. Lilly

  3. We can't be there with you, Sallie, but we are here, reading and thinking about you. You've been on my mind much this past week; I try to wrap you in light and love.

  4. What a blessing to have such a wonderful husband, lover and friend. I know your heart is still hurting but I also know you have that wonderful husband, lover, and friend watching and smiling down on you as your special guardian angel. He will always be a thought away and never leave you. I lost my first husband at a young age very suddenly. My 3 daughters grew up without their dad but filled with all the memories of him I could share. May your memories bring more smiles than tears as each day goes by. Hugs and prayers

  5. I havent gotten the opportunity to get to know you well...but I'd like to tell you that I can see in your words what a loving and courageous woman you are. You will one day find peace and reflect in loving memory that you have had in this life time what so many search for and never find. You are truly a blessed woman, and your memories and Gods loving arms will hold you when you feel you cannot hold yourself. I offer you my prayers and I pray that you will find comfort in your faith and Gods loving embrace.

  6. We are all here for you. Glad that you have such a wonderful support system! ~Kim

  7. Sallie,
    I haven't stopped by for quite a while so just found out about your loss. So very sorry to read about your Coop, just know that you're in my thoughts and prayers at this difficult time in your life.
    Hugs, Aunt Bea

  8. Love & Light to you dearest..

  9. With each weekend I think as well...3 weeks, now nearly 4. I see you drift off in thought and hold back when you don't want it to consume you. You know you don't have to but now you try to save yourself more than anyone....I see you wanting to get through, move on...find out who you are in this strange new life. And although you would never have chosen this for yourself it is here and you realize the inevitability of change and begin learning to accept it. You are so wise.

    Remember, Coopie is always with you...I ask him myself to keep watching over you. I have to believe your strong man is still wrapping you up in his loving support. We are all here for you and will be. This has brought us all back to the basic good of simply loving and living while we can. Nothing else will ever feel more important than being here for one another. I love you.

  10. Hello Dear Heart,
    I can only imagine how difficult it is to try to make sense of what has happened. Of your loss of your dear one. But know that in time, it will all balance out. Just take the time that you need to feel what you feel, to find your steps, and your strength again. Continue to lean on your family and your friends, and those of us on the other side of the monitor. We will all do what we can to hold you up and not allow you to fall. Know that I am thinking of you,

  11. You know, I run into this sort of thing often. Folks say, "Oh, friends on the internet. You don't know them. You don't know who they really are." I disagree. Completely. I think and worry about how you are feeling just as if you were next door. You go on leaning on as many shoulders as you need to. And if you want to chat or talk to someone, don't be afraid to post something here. We're looking out for you.

  12. Always remember there is one star who is your loved one watching over you and your family.That one star of mine watched over me when my husband was taken suddenly by an accident at work. My girls who are now grown looked at that star for hugs that were given out nightly by cyper space. God Bless you and hope to become one of your friends when your grief hs become more bearable. Lilly

  13. I am so blessed to know such beautiful friends. I take your caring words and love to heart and they fill me with so much appreciation.

    Life has kept me busy with details keeping me from re-establishing some old routines such as spending time here. I would so love to respond to each of you in a more personal way but find myself still somewhat scattered, trying to get this new life and details of it in some kind of normal order. I know you understand. Thank you for being there for me. Through your words I feel what is in your hearts and am encouraged. Please know how much your standing beside me has meant and continues to mean.

    love, Sallie

  14. Just stopping by again to let you know that I was thinking about you. =)

  15. Oh, Sallie...
    I haven't been by until just now...when you weren't posting for awhile, I stopped checking, figuring you were vacationing or something...

    My prayers and love are with you, dear one. I am so sorry to hear of Coop's passing...I have faced a lot of loss as well the past 3 months. This made me feel better-I read it at my father's memorial years ago.

    "Do not stand at my grave and weep
    I am not there. I do not sleep.
    I am a thousand winds that blow.
    I am the diamond glint on snow.
    I am the sunlight on ripened grain
    I am the gentle autumn rain.

    When you wake in the morning hush,
    I am the swift, uplifting rush
    Of quiet birds in circling flight.
    I am the soft starlight at night.

    Do not stand at my grave and weep.
    I am not there, I do not sleep.
    Do not stand at my grave and cry.
    I am not there. I did not die! "
    (Mary Frye~1932)

    My email is in my profile as well. If you need anything. If there's anything I can do...don't hesitate. Day or night.

    All my love to you.


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